Halo?
- Terry? - What?
dr's office. Satmani on phone.
- I heard too? - Yes.
Okay.
Hi, Doctor.
My cousin, yes.
It's his cousin talking.
The tremors looked the same as before.
No. Not like the first. Slightly better.
- Well. We'll do that. - Okay, Laura.
Thanks, Laura.
- Thank you. - Dah.
Until found.
I have tremors in my right arm and it pisses me off.
We've never had any health problems.
Suddenly, we have.
I think we reached a point in our lives to make a decision.
No, not yet.
I think we should leave the house. Too many...
which must be treated.
Our age means we have to throw it away and sell it.
This will be a big step for us.
Where are we going? I'm not sure.
This has to be a decision we all agree on.
I think it's all over.
We're going to Edmonton.
Our family said there are some interesting places there
and maybe we will be interested in going back there to stay.
I don't like being in the frozen north.
I don't care where.
As long as we are together, we will be happy.
EDMONTON, ALBERTA KANADA
Aunt Terry is our back.
Aunt may live far away,
but Auntie our backup.
--Ya . --Kau sandaranku
since you were born.
Yes that's correct.
If you need anything, ask us.
That's why we're here.
Making sure Auntie has a good place
and make decisions that work for you.
We will find out the answer.
- Must. - Yes.
So far, we don't know what the answer is.
They were in my life from day one.
I'm 13 years old. You're 11 years old.
TERRY'S NEIL
They were Aunt Terry and Aunt Pat.
Aunt Terry has always been a part of my life.
He's always there for me.
He always looks after me in the midst of chaos
what we experienced.
Aunt Terry and I had a wonderful relationship.
She's like my mother.
So there was a strong bond between Aunt Terry and me.
I like other children,
but Diana is special.
She's like the daughter I never had.
He made a difference in my life.
He was there when I was baptized. He was there when I graduated.
He took me to university.
He heard me when I said I wanted to be a teacher.
I wouldn't have what I have today without him. Point.
So, I owe him everything...
and only him.
I didn't know they were gay until three years ago.
I feel like I'm living a lie,
So, I said to Pat,
"Next time Diana comes down, I'll tell her."
He came down and I was so nervous.
I can see it's not him
and I don't understand what's going on.
I saw Pat say to Terry,
"You should tell him before the operation."
We had dinner together and still haven't told him.
I'm getting nervous because I don't want to lose her love.
Pat said, "You better tell him."
I'm back with dessert
and said, "Diana, I have something to say.
Kami gay."
She just trembled and started crying.
Then I hugged him and said,
"I don't care."
He's amazing.
I said, "You can go home and tell the others if you want.
Aunt doesn't care.
Auntie just wanted you to know."
Now Auntie can talk.
Since that day, it feels like a heavy burden
has been lifted from my shoulders.
How long have you been together? What is 68 years?
- That's 65.5 and up. - Sixty -five and a half years.
Aren't you surprised when I tell you?
No. I never thought about it. I...
Terry is my role model. I never realized that.
DIANA'S BROTHER/TERRY'S NEIGHBORHOOD
- I do not care. - Yes.
- I love them. - It's not important.
I don't want anything to change and I don't care.
Terry, I was raised a drunkard, a homophobic, a pervert ...
He instilled in me that it was very bad.
His brother, Tom, my father, often said,
"She had to be fucked by a big black man...
to straighten it out. "
He always said it. Consciously, not drunk.
I went to Terry and said, "He said Aunt was a lesbian."
He looked at me and said, "No.
Life in America is expensive and we're good friends,
so we live together. "
I never thought about it again because that's what he said.
DOCUMENTS NETFLIX ORIGINAL
BECAUSE YOU ARE MY HAPPINESS
BECAUSE OUR LOVE IS REAL
SHINE, THANKFUL IN HEART
FRIENDS LIKE THAT
SO MANY HAPPY MOMENTS
I have to say. When I found out, I was shocked.
I am surprised.
I love Aunt Terry.
I just feel betrayed he couldn't have told us earlier.
We've all been wrong...
but have we lived a lie for years?
DIANA'S BROTHER
More than sixty years.
It's like...
However, looking at this now, Grandma Rosie died in 2001,
Terry and Pat put their names there.
Rosie's grandmother confessed to me.
He called them girls.
You know, living together in Chicago because it's safe to be together.
He thought Aunt Terry was going to meet someone and get married.
So, Grandma doesn't know.
Hearing my aunt is lesbian is hard for me.
I can't imagine my grandmother. He won't understand.
Mom won't understand.
He may not recognize me.
Dad and I talk a lot.
I'm back from the season
and brought him a bottle of liquor from America,
then we both had a little party.
We often have fun together.
I think he knows.
Very understanding man father.
I love my mom, but she's not as understanding as dad.
And Dad really liked Pat.
He said he would rather see me like this than marry
the one who will persecute me.
Who knows. When I think of my father, I cry.
He's a good man.
What I want to see buried here is her husband, Jack.
Terry and Pat had to be together.
I don't question that,
but Grandpa should be here with Rosie...
because he was alone out there.
Now I understand. All this time they were together
and hid this secret from us, but they had to get married.
Living in sin is not a good thing.
Your day will be good. Auntie will love this place.
Will we like it better than before?
Who knows.
It depends on what they have to offer and I think now support is important.
Making sure Auntie is taken care of
and receive proper care.
- Yes. - If something happens to one of them,
we have to make sure others have support.
Whatever the cost.
What if I live to be 106 years old like Grandma?
Then I can carry Aunt.
I will do it.
So far, Aunty has no feelings in Edmonton...
except you.
You know and it's different.
Aunt Pat was there.
He is good to me.
If you want to move here...
I still don't know if he's good to me
because he thinks it's a must
because of Aunt Terry's feelings for me
or is he nice to me because he wants to be.
That's how I feel. I've always felt that way.
It doesn't feel sincere to me.
It doesn't feel real to me.
It feels made-up for us.
It will open a new life for you.
I hope Auntie likes it.
Pat wouldn't let me in and accept the fact that I was there.
This competition is always there.
Just a little, but not much.
Like the two of us playing.
My work-life balance will be broken.
I think we both played because of Aunt Terry.
This is our standard one bed room, with balcony.
For a one bed room, this is great.
That's right.
- There's room for everything, huh? - Not really.
On the way, this is our hair salon. We're going here.
We don't have a same-sex partner yet, but there are family members who do.
But not yet a resident.
If so, will they be accepted?
I think so.
I don't know if you understand our community,
but wherever we go, they say hello.
All about personal.
About who you are rather than your orientation.
Okay.
Because we're a couple.
It was incredible.
And we were a couple for years.
- How many? - How many years?
Sixty -five and a half years.
Are you pioneers in unpopular times?
- Right. - Yes. In the 40's.
That's a wonderful thing.
What do you have now?
There is one bedroom with one bed.
- I do not want. - All on the waiting list.
It's too small.
- We have to sell the house... - Yes.
...and that takes time.
- How is the market today? - Not very good.
Not very good.
Aunt Pat put a stop to everything.
I don't think he wants to come here
because Aunt Terry would have someone other than Pat.
He never shared Aunt Terry with anyone.
That's Grandma Rosie.
That's Brian and Diana.
Our family is a good family.
We are there for each other,
but my opinion...
Pat kept Terry away.
This is Grandpa and Paul.
Beautiful.
I'm sure Terry will be
with his family if it weren't for Pat.
So maybe that's where the disagreement comes from,
somehow Pat kidnapped him.
Seventy. Good grief.
Everyone loves Terry.
I guess they put up with me just because of Terry.
They will tolerate me.
So, that's it.
Happy new year!
Come in to keep warm.
- Nice to meet you. - Hi, Terry. Come on.
- Hi, Jack. How are you? - How are you dear?
Well. How are you?
Yes, how are you?
- Well. - Hi, Jack.
Nice to meet you.
- Pleased to meet you. - Give me your coat.
I'll take your drink. You drink Scotch?
I want some Scotch and water.
Okay.
I ordered a very weak Scotch.
Weak Scotch.
- With water. - Okay.
You know, we love our family very much .
I know it.
They wanted us back to live there.
Edmonton is a beautiful city, but my heart says no.
Yes.
Too cold.
Do you want to move to a warm climate?
Do you know?
If you come.
I'm ready to travel.
It's hard to leave your friends.
- Of course. - You know that.
I know it.
Remember we had a big party?
Good grief. Yes.
For God's sake.
Friend is...
They are everything.
Often friends are closer than family.
Thank you. Wow, this looks delicious.
It's a home-cooked dinner.
Thank goodness we met you.
- To a friend. - Those two guys from Chicago.
- Yes. - The best.
Did you come in the 50's or 60's?
I came in '46 and was a professional for four years.
- Well. - I came in July 1950.
For the moment, we don't want to see anyone.
We love being alone and away from Canada.
In the 40s, you had to be careful.
We had to be very careful in the late 50's and early 60's.
Yes.
- Yes of course. - Bad.
Two out of three Americans view homosexuals
with disgust, restlessness, or fear.
ARE YOU AN ENEMY OF SOCIETY WHAT ARE YOUR CHILDREN HOMOSEXUAL?
There may be several in this auditorium. Maybe some girls...
MORAL & YOUTH SQUAD, DADE COUNTY, FLORIDA
who became lesbians. We don't know. One in three will like another.
And you will be arrested.
Don't think you won't get caught
and the rest of your life will be hell.
Homosexuals respond by hiding.
It was the time when the bar was suspected of being a lesbian bar
raided often and if women don't have any,
I think there are three types of clothes ...
AUTHOR, MANUSCRIPT EDITOR
they can be caught and imprisoned.
It wasn't an easy time to get out.
CHICAGO cops raided three gay bars
23 PEOPLE ARRESTED
If you walk into the bar, they will check with a flashlight
And when you go out, if you wear your front pocket pants, you get arrested.
ACTIVIST, FORMER BAR
You're imitating a man.
MIDDLE NIGHT BRAKES, 90 PEOPLE CAPTURED 89 MEN, 14 WOMEN INTERESTED
POLICE
I've never been caught. I jumped out the window and ran.
126 HOMOSEXUALS FIRED
Thanks to the people of Chicago
for their trust in my public records.
Pak Tua Daley ...
got a lot of my friends fired
because they print everyone's names and their jobs.
Teachers, professors and principals lost their jobs.
MISSOURI UNIVERSITY PROFESSOR Arrested for Sodomy
There are many stories of people being fired and committing suicide.
Some lost custody of the children.
PUBLISHER & AUTHOR
Divorce and all that can happen because of bar raids.
We've never been to that bar.
We've never been to a bar.
We don't want to be sent back to Canada.
They do raids.
Certain.
You are immigrants.
Yes.
You can't mess up.
We have a green card.
I think parties are the main place people meet.
Yes. I remember going to these parties.
All the girls would go in there and dance non -stop.
The only time you're free is when you're out
and alone.
Have you ever wanted to get married?
- No. - Yes. Ever.
- I did, but he... - With?
with you.
Anything else you haven't told me?
Have you thought about it?
A few days ago, they said they could now get married in Illinois.
Yes.
I said to Terry, "What do you think, honey?"
He said, "I don't know."
You still refuse?
Jack, I'm not sure yet.
We didn't know you were thinking that. It was incredible.
I thought it was fun.
For me, there is no reason for that.
- No. - Okay.
Everything went as it should.
I feel the same way, John.
For me, I don't love other people as much as I love them.
There he is.
I feel like John.
We thought everything was in order and there was no reason for that.
However...
why not?
We live in Chicago...
maybe 42 or 43 years old, I guess.
Michigan Avenue is so pretty now.
They have a boulevard and in the spring...
I want to ride it.
Segway, yes.
We worked 26 years in the same office.
People wonder how can stay
and worked together for 26 years?
We love working together. Right.
We work for Watson & Boaler, a great interior design company.
And we have rich clients.
When we go to the office, we are just doing business.
We always wear dresses, high heels, makeup and lipstick,
everything, always.
We are like women and I think the people we meet love it.
Anyone who isn't gay doesn't know. Obviously not.
They thought we were good friends. That is for sure.
Close friends.
Halo.
These women were the first tenants of this building.
On a windy day like today, you can hear the creaking of the buildings.
- I'm sure it's still happening. - Here?
- Yes. - No. We can't hear it.
You remember there was a hole in the ground?
Yes. I remember it very deeply.
We live there.
You see that church? Very close from there.
About four or five blocks away.
- Old Town? - Ya.
Wow.
We haven't seen our place in a long time.
We stayed on the second floor and when we found this place...
our landlord said, "I won't let you go."
It happened. We are here for 20 years.
We love staying here. Extraordinary.
This area is very beautiful.
We walked here and took the bus.
How long? I think ten, 15 minutes from here?
STOP BUS
OBSERVATORY
Good grief.
You're a catcher.
- Can be multiple positions. - Extraordinary.
So you have to wear a dress?
- Yes. - Good grief.
- Have you ever skied to base ? - Yes I have.
There is one girl who makes 201 stolen bases in a year.
No one did it.
Good grief.
These little cards are so cute.
When people find out you play in the All-American
and in the movie A League of Their Own , they were really excited.
Then if you give them a card, it will surprise them.
It's so cute little cards make a lot of people happy.
All the girls say the same thing.
So, I kept some in my bag.
That All-American Baseball featured the American Women's Baseball League
for spring practice in Alexandria, Virginia.
Okay. Start playing.
My dreams come true because I can remember telling my dad,
"If I could play football every day, that would be my dream."
It happened.
The one who gets paid to play is Terry Donahue.
VOICE OF MARY MRUGALSKI
Terry played for Peoria Redwings during the Second World War
on what they call the American Women's Baseball League.
Philip Wrigley, pemilik Chicago Cubs,
had the idea of ​​filling the stadium with female baseball players.
NATIONAL LEAGUE CHAMPIONS
So, he sent talent scouts to the United States and Canada
to find the best softball player to be found.
He sent 200 of them to Wrigley Field...
and out of 200, he chose 60 girls to form four teams.
Then he chose a northern town , like Rockford,
Kenosha, Racine,
South Bend,
and Peoria
to get into the league he formed.
As a Canadian citizen...
CAPTURE MOOSE JAW, CANADA
...we are very happy that Wrigley is including Canada.
There were also two girls from Cuba.
It's that old tractor.
Good grief. It's an old farmhouse.
This is Dad carrying me.
It's a happy home.
I was born and raised on a farm in Melaval, Saskatchewan.
Of course, I grew up in the Depression,
no money, and after you do your job,
you are unemployed.
So, I played with my brother.
He's a great football player
'cause he makes me better ' cause he throws the ball low
and it's natural that you want you to fail.
He will throw it harder and hit the ball harder.
That's quite profitable for me.
So when the scouts came, how old were you and what grade were you in?
When I played ball at school,
I was judged by the team at Moose Jaw
to play there during the holidays after school.
When the talent scouts from America came, I was 19 years old.
I came here when I was 20 years old.
I came alone in 1946.
I don't know about Chicago, how big or everything.
All I know is, I came for a test run and I can't wait.
Then my number was called.
I ran to the shortstop , then they started hitting the ball.
I enjoyed the day cause I caught those balls madly,
run, and get it.
Then there was a bouncing ball that cut my eyebrows.
I go to the side and they say, "Bring him, sew him up."
I said, "No. Put on the tape. I'll be back. I'm not done yet."
Wounds in the Eyes
They turned to me, saying, "Brave son."
Then came the day of allocation.
I will never forget it.
It's in a big room with all the young girls
who is trying to get in.
My name is not called,
unmentioned,
then I thought,
"I guess I should go home and say I'm not good enough."
Then my name was called for the Peoria Redwings team.
I'm telling you, Chris, I'm the happiest girl in the room.
I was with them for four years and they never swapped me.
These women clearly laid the groundwork
for female athletes in all sports after their lifetime.
Head straight.
Back straight.
Sit down.
Even if they have to do a lot of unimportant things
in order to play,
they should go to personality school and learn to apply makeup.
They wanted us to be like women and play like men, we did.
- Can't get in. - I like.
This is our uniform.
The skirt must be 15 cm above the knee.
"Tiby" Eisen sprinted home and bruised his leg.
Better bruises than trousers, right?
People think, "They'll come out and laugh.
The women play baseball in skirts."
However, when they saw how well we played,
they come back every night.
In 1948, our league attracted a million people.
I think they are feminists.
They play baseball, geez.
Women don't do that.
They dare to do something completely different
when differences are not considered a good thing.
Our group of women was amazing.
My best friend, Betty,
play on the same team.
He said, "Terry, I don't know what you know about this.
When these women get together, they look for other women."
I replied, "I don't know."
He said "I'm just telling you what happened
for you to notice."
I've never heard of a girl like that.
I don't know the difference,
but Betty and I took no chances.
We locked the door.
We moved the wardrobe.
We moved chairs. We put it at the door.
We don't want them in our room.
I didn't know what to think until I met Pat.
I don't know what happened, but it happened.
It was one of the best days of my life,
when I met him Sunday morning at the hockey rink in Moose Jaw.
I think I'm 18 years old.
He's 22 years old, maybe.
It all started in 1947.
It's like having a secret relationship.
And we laughed because we thought how it happened.
Over the years, but...
looks like it just started yesterday.
We went skating one night.
Then in the next corner, he's over there, and I'm here.
He said, "Here." He gave me a piece of paper.
I can't wait for the next light.
It was the most beautiful note Pat had ever written.
He says I m reader.
I read many stories,
but I don't know if any woman loves another woman.
He said more than anything,
I hope the feeling is the same.
However, I wanted to turn around and go back.
We were almost locked in the Catholic church.
Because there was a sandstorm.
We were walking down Main Street and we kissed.
No one can see because of the sandstorm.
Very difficult to assemble.
Right.
One time we walked into the hotel without luggage or anything.
I can't believe we did that.
And I'm very famous there for sports.
- And we played hockey. - Right.
Our photo will be in the newspaper. Good grief.
This is not a wise move.
However, when I brought it to the farm, it felt good.
When the holidays come,
I'm so happy to be home and I said to Pat,
"You come home with me
And I guarantee you'll have a great time."
When he said, "I can't." I said, "Do it.
You get on the train and I'm at the station."
Then Pat got out of the car.
And we had fun.
Meanwhile, I'm on a date with Bill from Peoria
and he drives to Canada.
I said, "You can come, but don't expect."
He came through the front door and I went out with Terry.
I almost got married when I was 18
and the young man who was engaged to me...
die.
Then I went on a date with another young man.
At war.
Date another young man who is a pilot and he is killed.
Then I went on a date with a farmer's son.
The tractor overturned...
and he died.
All these weird things going on and I thought,
"This isn't what I'm supposed to be doing."
That was before I met Terry.
It changed everything.
Yes.
Patty, you were meant for me.
I think you're right.
However, Pat and I had a groom.
Good grief. I was with a guy named Len.
Len and I went driving in 1949.
We traveled with our team for two weeks.
We watched them play and it was amazing.
I'm rooming with Terry
and he had to stay at the hotel.
I'm a remote operator. I can always find you.
This is crazy. That's after the season ends and you buy that old car.
- Yes. - The women.
They drive from Chicago to Moose Jaw.
That's 804.7 km.
I found it on the street. I found the motel and he was there.
I can't escape.
However, I was surprised when Pat called.
Hey, Terry.
He was almost furious.
Len's mother and father wanted me to marry him.
His sister chased after me.
His sister came after me and I said, "Terry, we have to go.
Go away."
Pat says it's just the two of us in a world like this.
I said, "Let's go to America."
We thought it would be easier to be ourselves.
However, we don't know anyone. We are happy to be together.
I played baseball and Pat got a job.
Then I came home after the season to see my dad.
I told Pat I'd be back.
I came back and got a job.
WELCOME TERRY
We have a furnished apartment.
There are two rooms.
There's a big brown chair that fits the two of us.
It's hard to meet good people,
not after a while.
We are very careful.
Really? You're not sure yet.
In what year will you be sure?
I was worried about saying something to Al.
I have five brothers, only one is still alive.
He is three years younger than me and we are very close.
I love her.
And he loved Terry.
We were on the phone, so, I just said.
I said, "You know, Terry and I...
been together for years."
I said ...
"We want to get married."
Then a long silence.
He said, "No. It will hurt our family."
I said, "How could it hurt our family?"
He said, "I don't want you to tell anyone in my family."
I thought he'd be like this.
I like Al. He was a wonderful man, but very closed-minded.
I said, "I hope your heart changes."
What can I say?
So, if we decide to get married, we will...
straight ahead.
Yes. He won't affect us.
No.
If...
he can't take it, that's the problem.
He definitely couldn't stay away from his only sister.
I am sure of it.
I was born in Cabri, Saskatchewan...
on September 27, 1928.
I have five brothers and one sister.
We have seven people.
We have a nice farm. We have cliffs.
I used to go there and write poetry.
We also have a creek, a dam, and some horses.
My father owns a small dairy company.
He sent milk to the people in town.
I have two brothers who served in the Air Force during the war.
My brother, Wally ...
he is my mother's favorite child.
He's her favourite.
In essence, he wanted to be a pilot. He is only 17 years old.
Mom signed him up for him to join.
He arrived in England on his 19th birthday .
Good grief.
He finished all the flights, the whole tour.
They called him again and he was killed.
Shot down over Germany.
Mother died two years later...
I'm so heartbroken.
I was 15 years old when my mother died.
After my mother died, my father remarried.
So, I have a stepmother,
one step -sister, and two step -brothers.
We don't think she's the greatest mother in the world.
They will go on the weekend
and lock good food in the basement.
What kind of family is this?
In 1959, my father and stepmother were killed...
at a train crossing.
The train hit them and they both died.
Terry's mother and father came to the funeral.
They are amazing to me.
After my mother died...
I met Terry's mom and dad.
The first thing his father said was , "I'm going to adopt you."
Terry and his family love me and they show it.
This is what everyone needs.
You feel loved and cared for.
Hey, that's great.
That's how it sounds. Can you hear?
Yes. Nice.
We'll write a nice song about you,
but all i think about is a love song.
That's good.
my heart.
It's a love song.
- Eh? - Ya.
Uh. That's Canada.
You are my love
Years together
And stay together
I hope.
You are my love
Years together
And stay together
You are my love
It is beautiful.
I thought after that song, we would get married.
Okay?
Can I be a bridesmaid?
It's OK.
- Can I be a groomsman? - Yes.
Groomsman.
Yes.
Good grief.
Can we do that?
Let's go.
You are my love
How are you doing with this exercise?
- Good. - Did it?
I did.
What are your current difficulties?
PHYSICAL THERAPIST
The pelvis.
- Hips? Well. - Yes.
Because both of your hips have been replaced.
- No. Yes. Both were replaced. - Yes.
It is important to stay active because of Parkinson's,
so does the pelvis, and stay active for...
I really like this exercise
And I'm telling you, the training doesn't continue.
I want to see how well you get up from that chair.
- One. - This is it.
- Two. - That's just a great girl.
- Three. - Raise your hand a little higher.
- Four. - Good.
Lima.
Good.
No more.
- Seven. - Beautiful.
Eight.
- Good. Enough. - I did ten.
What? Do ten.
- Nine. - That's the athlete in you.
- Ten. - Great, Terry.
- Great. - Nice work.
Lift this leg forward.
Obviously, changes in posture are normal as we age,
But, remember, Parkinson's has a tendency
bend forward and bend slightly.
Like an old woman.
Yes, but you don't look like an old lady, Terry.
ONE YEAR LATER
Do you know...
there were times he wasn't too bad and when he wasn't too good.
However, tomorrow he will have a second injection
and we pray this time it will help.
Because the first time it was completely useless.
The pain was severe, even though he was taking painkillers.
He had to take one pill every four hours.
We try to spread it.
He doesn't drink it often.
However...
What worries me is his health.
I want him to be healthy and happy.
There are many things he can't do now
because of the tremors in his hands.
So, I keep an eye on everything.
I don't want him alone.
That's worrying.
He means a lot to me.
He's my everything.
Take your stick, then we go.
Okay.
I have to be careful.
Yes. How are you people?
What worries me is the setbacks I see...
and the lack of progress Pat has made in terms of planning
for them to move.
He didn't do anything.
He didn't budge.
I'm getting frustrated with that.
The problem was Aunt Terry wanted to move, but Pat didn't.
I guess I'll have to intervene.
That's my only choice.
There's no one here.
- Patty. - Hi darling.
How are you?
Nice to meet you again.
- Gosh, you're so pretty. - Is that little Diana?
Look at you.
- My Diana. - Is that Diana?
I'm scared to see you, Patty.
- I'm well. - Hi!
Diana.
That's his favorite.
Pleased to meet you.
Gosh, you must be tired.
Gosh, nice to meet you.
That's good.
Auntie wants to see you.
- She looks pretty. - You look beautiful.
Last time I saw you, Aunt Terry maybe four or seven,
- Nine pounds fatter ... - Yes.
- ...from now on. - Precisely.
He weighs about 56.6 kg.
What do you eat?
Yes, I eat.
- I don't know if I'm eating enough. - Probably not.
Your appetite is good.
I eat as much as you, Pat.
No.
Auntie eat frozen food now?
Yes. We bought frozen dinner.
It's the time of your life
when someone else has to cook your food.
Have someone clean your house.
This time...
Auntie don't have to worry about anything
and I think we're all worried about what's going to happen.
I dreamed.
I dreamed we sold this place and its contents
and that's how it should be.
I can not.
Like this chair, I won't leave it.
Oh, Pat. You...
I will not leave this chair.
We'll take the two lights with us, that's for sure.
Painting. We'll take the painting.
All of this. There is stuff everywhere.
Save your stuff. Nothing forbids.
You don't have to throw it away, but you have to get out of here.
We have to find your new place to live.
Do you want to live here or Florida? I know Auntie doesn't want to go to Canada.
No. You know, Edmonton doesn't appeal to me.
I don't know why, but no.
I...
I love Sarasota.
I like Florida too.
It's very beautiful there and I'm happy when I'm there.
However, that is not the place for us now.
Nice and warm. Cozy and green.
And I can't drive.
I don't know how long you can drive, then you're stuck there.
You see the golf course...
and little water flow.
There is a small stream of water.
That's not the place.
Not the place.
It wouldn't be bad if you found a nice place to live here.
-Di St. Charles? -Ya.
There must be a nice place to live here for you guys.
The price is very expensive.
Yes, me...
Yes, but very expensive if one of you is sick
and the others must have full-time guards here.
Maybe we should find a place here.
How?
Yes.
Patty?
I think we can.
When Auntie stands like this, does it hurt?
No, it doesn't hurt now.
Auntie is quite good today to see you.
Aunt Terry, we have to get this over with.
Yeah, we gotta get to Edmonton.
We can go in winter.
I don't think Auntie's idea will be approved.
Mention the place you mentioned earlier.
Dell something.
Kurasa Delnor Glen.
I'll look if Auntie is still busy.
No. I just want to throw this away.
Here's your pill, Terry.
Make sure Auntie eats all of this.
Okay.
Must.
Pat?
If we go there today...
Yes.
...and they say...
that there's a spot open next month...
livable...
we can do it.
No.
Yes, we can.
We can. Once you're determined, you'll get it done.
Okay.
I don't sleep much.
Hi, Debbie. My name is Diana Bolan, I'm here from Canada.
I'm with my aunt.
I'm interested in your facilities
and I wonder if it's possible
I come today or tomorrow
and saw it when I was in St. Charles?
Okay, close your eyes.
- Understand? - Okay.
Okay.
Well. Thank you very much, Debbie.
- Thank you. - Dah.
Did you find the owner?
I spoke to Delnor Glen.
And...
one room for $5,000 per month.
Five thousand dollars a month?
And the extra person is $1,500.
So, the price is $6,845 per month.
- A month? - One person.
- For two people. - Two persons.
How many?
Almost $7,000.
That's 84 per year.
- Eighty-four thousand? - Yes.
It's a bit expensive for me.
I do not know. I think it's better to die.
Maybe there's another place we can call.
Retirement community.
Wait a minute, I thought I had something.
That is not...
Marlene said she gave you a lot of stuff.
Right.
We threw it away.
- Auntie threw it away? - Yes.
No. We don't throw it away.
I think so.
When is it?
Come on, honey. Just me.
Anyone inside?
Wait.
What are you doing, Terry?
There's a lot of stuff there. Better not go there.
What are you doing, Terry?
I want to see it.
Terry, they're not there.
I guarantee.
We've been there. There's nothing there.
I want to show Diana.
No do not.
- I want to. - I forbid.
No. Of course not.
Auntie knew me all my life. Why don't you believe me?
- Auntie believes! - I have no other reason!
- Unless you take care of it. - Don't be too happy.
How can I not be happy when Auntie sends this money
even though Auntie said she couldn't?
It doesn't make sense to me.
Aunt Terry's condition was at risk now.
- Auntie knows. - Auntie too.
I don't know why Aunt doesn't want me to do or know anything
- But I'll tell you, Pat... - Oh my God.
...I'm sincere
and I would never put Aunt Terry in danger.
I wanted to come this year, but you kept saying,
"Don't come."
I'm here.
It weighs 45.3 kg!
Your back hurts
and Aunt has no idea how much I love Aunt Terry!
Auntie doesn't understand!
I just want Aunt Terry to be safe.
Just that!
- Honey, that's a lot of money, Diane. - Just that!
I'm tired of fighting this!
Auntie can't believe it...
You feel Auntie is trying...
keep anything from you because it's not true.
No.
When Auntie said that last thing, it felt right in the heart!
What did I say?
You said to Terry, "Don't tell me anything."
What?
"Don't tell him anything. Don't tell him anything, Terry.
Please don't tell him. "
That's not true because Pat...
- No. - It's a game.
I guess you know that, don't you, Diane?
- What... - I told Aunt Terry this morning
I don't want to see the stuff.
He kept taking it out.
I see it. He wanted me to see it.
I see it. I said, "I don't want to see it."
He said, "Here's my thing. I can show you."
You have enough money to get into that place.
You have more than enough money without this house...
over a million dollars.
What is the problem?
The reason I said that was beyond my capabilities.
Aunt doesn't believe it either, but I think she's sorry.
Isn't this stupid? You're saying stupid things, Diane.
Diane, Pat loves you.
- I don't know why he said that. - Me too.
I don't know what's wrong with you.
I don't need that. I just want him to take care of you.
Diane, please.
Auntie can't believe you feel this way for me, Diane.
For God's sake...
You know the most important thing to me?
Saw you with Aunt Terry. That's a beautiful thing.
The way you treated Aunt Terry was like gold.
That's all I care about.
It's okay Auntie doesn't care about me. As long as Aunt cares for her...
Can you stop this?
Stop it! I love you and I care about you.
- Just take care of Aunt Terry. - Listen!
Now stop this crazy babbling...
If I didn't hear it last night, I wouldn't be like this.
Good grief.
You know Auntie loves you.
Then I don't understand the reason for not telling me
so I can help you sort things out.
Right now, you have to let me in.
Just a little.
- I want to make sure Auntie is safe. - Please.
That's my only wish.
- You have a headache, Pat? - No.
I am hurt.
I am very sad.
- What? - I said I feel really sad.
- The plate we're going to bring, Pat. - Yes.
That's good.
Bell? You want the bell?
Yes I like that.
Do you want Auntie to keep or give away the silverware ?
Beautiful, isn't it?
I'm curious about the price.
- The bookshelf is removed. - Yes.
Closet thrown away.
These photos were thrown away too, right?
Yes.
Ride. Clever girl.
- I don't know how this ball is. - Throw it in the trash.
I don't want to throw it away. This is a new ball.
I threw away 110 books.
AMERICAN WOMEN'S BASEBALL LEAGUE
All very dirty.
Okay.
Peoria Redwings.
- Bend your knees. - Yes, you can.
- It was brought? - No.
CHICAGOLAND TRUCK RENTAL
This is funny. See all these photos.
Full of gay men.
These are all his baseball friends.
Aunt Terry would love to see these pictures.
Travel photos of them and their friends and...
I don't even know who they are.
These people.
They have other families besides us.
They have another life.
It's just a bunch of...
Oh Lord.
... a lot of stuff here.
Here, Patty, wait.
Good grief.
Have I ever had brown skin?
I can't believe I'm skinny.
Yes, you look like Lauren Bacall.
Gosh, you guys love to take pictures in bed.
Good grief.
- Look at this. - We're on our way to Cuba.
That's Havana.
On the way to Cuba.
Spring practice.
It's you, Terry.
You're holding a teacup.
- Yes, this is Cuba. - Isn't that funny?
Aunt Terry, Aunt throw your hat to catch.
You know a lot of catchers don't.
You're pretty sweet, honey.
I think this is like a letter.
Good grief.
This is what I wrote for Terry. Good grief.
Aunt writing for Aunt Terry? Really, Pat?
Geez.
Read it.
I have to cry.
The title I Always Remember Tonight .
"Maybe just one more step in the moonlight,
but it means a lot because I walk with you.
Maybe just one more night, for seven nights.
My dear, you are with me.
It was another night in heaven.
We sauntered a little talking as we passed the Moonlight Path.
Happiness flows inside of me when you smile and call my name.
When we are hand in hand like flying, we walk alone.
That was one night I will remember, one of our nights. "
Patty, that's beautiful.
- Beautiful. - Do you know?
You can put this in a book.
- It is beautiful. - I think so too.
Good grief. There are several, right?
Why was the bottom torn off?
We don't want anyone to know we wrote it
if they read it.
- At that time, you had to... - Be very careful.
We thought if something happened to both of us...
Our family will never know our relationship.
That's right. Isn't that so, Pat?
We know people whose families don't recognize them.
Auntie think I will?
Yes.
- Really? - She's scared.
- We don't know. - He doesn't want to lose you.
We have to be careful.
PANTI WREDA DELNOR GLEN
- Pat! - Okay.
Judy.
Doesn't that look delicious? Crab cake with Hollandaise sauce, wow.
Come on, roll.
Roll over, little dog.
Still wet.
I felt we were at home.
- Isn't that so, Terry? - Yes. Every day is better.
Seeing our table full of papers and stuff, felt like home.
We are like reluctant debutants.
We...
not ready to come.
We really like the house
and we were very happy there for 21 years.
We're not ready. I do not think so.
We need people like Diana saying, "We're worried about you guys. Do this."
We need the encouragement he gives.
Because he cares, he wants us to be happy,
and he wants us to be safe.
Yes.
I think this is the right choice.
Yes. I feel like we were led here.
There's no one here we don't like.
They want to know.
No. I have no feelings to share all that.
- I don't think it's necessary. - True.
Hi. Come in.
Go. He gave you flowers.
Thank you darling.
- Come on in, Jackson. - He is handsome.
Come in.
Want to meet Auntie?
I can't believe we're doing this.
You better believe.
Happy birthday and everyone.
Yes, and everything.
And everything.
You better believe.
- Well. Lets do it. - Okay. Here he is.
Come on.
Cry if you want.
Aren't you afraid?
No.
It's beautiful.
Tammy.
Yes, I understand. Damn, I can see it.
And we can hear you.
Want to say hello.
Hey, Tammy.
I like your balloons.
Hey, Tammy.
- We miss you. - Yes.
- I wish you were here, Tammy. - Yes.
Friends...
the bride is ready, so please gather...
HAPPY TERRY AND PAT
to celebrate this long-awaited celebration.
It's about time.
We start with the words of EE Cummings.
"I brought your heart with me.
I carry it in my heart.
I've never been without it.
Wherever I go, you go, honey.
I'm afraid your destiny is mine, my dear.
I don't want there to be a world because your beauty is my world.
I brought your heart.
I carry it in my heart."
Terry and Pat, you are here today accompanied by family and friends
to unite your life in a sacred and formal bond
and legal marriage.
Are you, Emma Marie Henschel,
received this woman, Teresa Paz Donahue,
to be your wife?
Yes.
Do you promise to love him and respect him
and love him as long as you share your life with him
and become friends who are full of love and understanding
all your life?
I do.
Are you, Teresa Paz Donahue,
accept this woman, Emma Marie Henschel, to be your wife?
Yes.
Do you promise to love him and respect him
and love him as long as you share your life with him
and become friends who are full of love and understanding
all your life?
I do.
Pat, get Terry's ring.
Put it on her finger and say, "Terry, with this ring, I marry you."
Terry, with this ring, I marry you.
Terry, take Pat's ring,
put it on his finger and say,
"Pat, with this ring, I marry you."
Pat, with this ring, I marry you.
Pat and Terry, in exchange for your promise and your ring,
you guys started a legal relationship legally
which has existed in faith and love
for almost 70 years.
We celebrate your journey together.
We're glad you don't have to mention each other's cousins ​​anymore ...
in the end.
Finally, you can call each other your beloved wife.
Please kiss your bride.
I want to say it's a beautiful day
and we want to thank everyone who came.
You are dear friends for many years.
We are so grateful you guys become their other family.
So, thanks for coming.
Congratulations to you guys.
Thank you.
Toast.
Safe.
Yes.
- I'm glad you're here. - Me too.
Yes.
Will you kiss?
His name is Terry Pat.
We're going to a football game.
Cubs Match. Baseball game.
- They're your other family. - Yes.
Grandma Rosie?
One hundred and six.
And Aunt Terry hired a manager...
NEWLYWEDS
You look beautiful today.
- Really? - Yes.
It's because I'm wearing a red shirt.
Are you walking?
With a walker.
Not without it.
If so, we will both be a good couple.
We've always been a good match, Terry.
Yes.
We're entering our 70th year, so ...
When you can move, I have to treat you well.
You're always kind, Terry.
You always treat me well, honey.
You're a beautiful little girl.
Here he is.
Here, honey.
- I love you, Patty. - I love you too dear.
And you'll be fine.
Be a good girl and eat.
- Eat it. - Terry.
Terry, I did what I could.
However, if I can't eat, I can't eat.
Listen, honey. Do not worry.
Honey, Auntie knows I'm worried about you
and I want you both to be happy and healthy.
I know Parkinson's is hard to manage
and I remember Auntie said growing old wasn't for weak women.
Aunty is a strong person and I know Auntie is fighting there.
However, if Auntie needs me, just give me a call.
- Yes. - Definitely.
Patty, promise me you'll call me if you want me to come.
Honey, I will.
Okay.
bye. I love you.
Until found.
Unlucky.
When we think about it and talk about it,
we decided it was best to go back to Canada.
I think I know.
Auntie over there. Hi darling.
- Come on in. - I'll help you, okay?
Get in here, said the shy.
- It's me, Terry. - Well.
Hug him.
Come here.
You want a good morning kiss?
- Not until... - I sat down.
Yes.
We have to go.
You have to talk.
- You're pissed at me today, aren't you? - Yes.
No problem. I still love you.
Come on, Aunt Terry. Alright to your lover now.
- He won't even kiss me. - Why?
- Terry? - What?
- You want to give me a morning kiss? - I thought about it.
You think about it?
All right, tell me when you're ready.
I saw the camera.
Come on. Kiss Me.
All right, everyone. We're moving.
- Are we moving? - Okay.
That's our house, Terry.
Yes.
For 26 years.
Yes.
I really like living there.
- Right, honey? - Yes.
Now we go on living.
CANADA BORDER INSPECTION
- We're in Canada. - We're in Canada.
Canada.
OUR LOVE IS REAL.
Second base in front.
Glide.
You broke the rules back then.
Right.
Everyone who played in the 40s broke the rules.
You broke the rules your whole life.
Yes, that's right.
That's why I'm happy.
Right?
- Have fun breaking the rules? - Yes.
Aunt in Canada. Aunt here!
- Ya. - Hey!
However, you are with your family.
I'm glad you're here.
I think it's a good move because I think Terry,
especially Terry, must be here with family.
I managed to bring them here
and now that they're here, I'm so grateful,
whatever I have to do, I do.
I'm so glad they're both here.
No regrets.
I will do it again.
I think love is love and that's all that matters.
PAT AND TERRY LIVE HAPPY TOGETHER FOR ALMOST TWO YEARS
AT WREDA TOUCHMARK BEACH IN EDMONTON, ALBERTA, CANADA
TERRY DONAHUE DIED ON MARCH 14, 2019.
HE LEFT HIS PARTNER FOR 72 YEARS, PAT HENSCHEL.
Subtitle translation by Prameswari Rahmanu